Chances are that you either are an empath or you know one, there are lots of us out there and many who don’t even know that they are one.
If you’ve never heard of the term you are probably wondering what are empaths? How do I know if I am an empath? What do I do now?
To understand more of what an empath is, it helps to know a little about empathy in general. Empathy is the ability to step into the shoes of another person, aiming to understand their feelings and perspectives, and to use that understanding to guide our actions.
An empath is one who lives this role of empathy at all times, affected by others energies, and having the ability to feel and perceive others. Living a life that is of constant unconscious influence of others’ desires, wishes, thoughts, and moods.
Not limited to just emotions, empaths can perceive physical sensitivities and spiritual urges, as well as sensing the motivations and intentions of other people (a trait that has saved myself in many a predicament). Empaths are the human B.S. detectors, hearing everything you don’t say, and seeing everything that you don’t show.
Empaths just know stuff, its deep down beyond intuition or gut feeling, its more like a connection with the universal truth. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift grows.
Conversing with Compassion
Empaths are highly expressive in all areas of emotional connection, and will talk openly and at times, quite frankly with those that will engage in heartfelt conversations. Although, usually in the case of the emotionally scarred empath, they will bottle up their emotions and build sky-high barriers and let no one know of their innermost thoughts and/or feelings.
The warmth and genuine compassion of empaths attracts people of all walks of life and animals, regardless of whether they are aware of it. Even complete strangers find an ease of conversation about the most personal things without realizing it. Pouring out their hearts and souls as if subconsciously they recognized the empaths ability to listen with compassion and understanding.
Empaths can be bubbly, enthusiastic, outgoing, humorous and a joy to be around one minute and then a mood swing will come so fast leaving you with whiplash trying to figure out wtf just happened (lets take a moment here to think of all the poor souls out there that love their empaths unconditionally).
You can be having a great day and all of a sudden become highly irritated about something, sometimes you can suddenly feel sad for no reason at all, or even have a flush of terror that can bring on a panic attack!
It can be highly overwhelming if you don’t know how to shield yourself, and there’s still a few occasions that no matter how well you prepare certain individuals energies are so strong they can still get through.
Empaths can be known to experience things like chronic fatigue, environmental sensitivities, or unexplained aches and pains daily. These are most likely caused by outside influences and not yourself at all. An empath is like a sponge that walks around and absorbs the emotions, energies, and pains of others.
The empath will almost always develop the same symptoms of those they share the closest bonds with, almost like sympathy pains.
Empaths are highly sensitive to TV, videos, movies, and the news. Violence or emotional dramas that display shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted on adults, children, or animals can easily bring an empath to tears. The suspense of some horror movies have filled me with so much anxiety that can send my body into shock filled nausea.
Empaths are in general non aggressive, nonviolent, and are more of the peaceful variety. Any area filled with tension creates an uncomfortable feeling for the empath. If they find themselves in the middle of confrontation, they will try to resolve the situation as quickly as possible, if not just avoid it all together.
How to deal
Set boundaries. It’s important in order to keep yourself protected, but can be very hard to do when you empathize with others so easily. However, without boundaries you will never get a chance to discharge all that you are absorbing through others. Telling them no will not be the end of the world, if they are sad or upset it is on them and their capabilities to handle being told no. You have to take care of yourself first.
Your home should be your safe place. Cleanse it regularly with smudging, especially after guests have left your home. Set up a protective grid with crystals for your home. I like the combination of black tourmaline, smoky quartz, citrine, obsidian, and amethyst to produce an effective shield while calming, grounding, as well as balancing energies of the home.
This next one is common sense for some but difficult for others, but do not let anyone in that you do not feel comfortable with. You have this gift so don’t ignore the warning signs. Your home is your holy ground.
Times that I know that I’m going to interact with others I carry my crystals with me that help to ground, stabilize, shield, and amplify my personal energies so that I am able to function without so much of a meltdown.
Ground it out
Empaths can very easily become a dumping ground for everyone elses issues and problems, and without releasing this buildup, can lead to digestive disorders (from stomach ulcers to IBS) and lower back problems.
Ground yourself daily or whenever you feel overwhelmed by others. Plant your feet flat on the floor sit up straight and recognize the connection of your feet with the earth (I like to visualize tree roots growing from my feet into the earth). Inhale slowly while mentally counting to 5. Then exhale completely while counting to 5. Repeat 5 times.
Another grounding technique is to notice what you see around you. Say out loud 5 things you see, 4 things you hear, 3 things you can feel, and 2 things you can smell, and one thing you taste.
Water is the element that will calm an empaths emotions, a sea salt bath will clear negative energy as well as ocean air and water (no wonder that I’m much calmer when its summer).
Meditate daily and focus a shield of protection that comes up from the floor and over your head. When you go into public places, work on activating your shield.
In the End
It’s important to remember that you can’t make everyone think and feel about things as deeply as you do. You will always have a strong understanding of the world but so few will understand you. It’s a blessing and a curse.
Empaths have a tendency to openly feel what is outside of them more so than what is inside of them. This can cause the empath to ignore their own needs. So stay focused on keeping in check with your own emotions. Ask your inner self if these emotions are really yours, ask what (or where) the root cause is. Pay attention to the answers that come.
I hope this post was helpful in getting a little more insight of what empaths are and ways to understand how to cope a little better. Write a comment to share any experiences, insights, or questions and I will get back with you.
Love and Light